Sex for the first time
Friday 13 January 2006
While everybody seems to be talking about sex, it's unlikely that everybody is actually doing it.
It seems as if everybody has different information on the subject; what it's like, when they've done it, how many times, and who with.
Research says that most teenagers don’t have sex until they’re over 16, so don't believe all the bragging; it might not be true!
No rush
You only get your first time once, so you shouldn't feel pressured into having sex just because everybody else reckons they are. People usually boast about sex because they're unsure about it and don't want to feel left out. If everyone were honest with each other, you'd probably find that only a few of your friends have actually done the deed.
It's important that you feel absolutely ready, so that you don't have any regrets afterwards. You should get to know your partner and be sure that you trust them and ensure both feel the same way before going through with it..
No pressure
If you think you're ready to have sex, then talk this over with your partner and make sure that they feel the same way. If they're not ready, don't pressure them into anything they don't want to do. You wouldn't like it if it were the other way round, would you?
No one can tell you when you’re ready to have sex. That’s a decision you have to make on your own. But don’t let anyone pressurise you into doing something you might regret or don’t want to do. Make up your own mind and be true to yourself.
Boundaries
If you're both ready, talk it over and discuss some boundaries: like how far you're prepared to go. It may be that you're not ready to go all the way. Find a common ground that you can both agree on and work from there. Sex won't be fun if you or your partner isn't really happy about what you're doing.
Protect yourself
You should also talk over the method of contraception you'll be using, and when and where you're going to have sex. You need to think seriously about contraception, not only to avoid unintended pregnancy, but also to protect against sexually transmitted infections.
RU Thinking http://www.ruthinking.co.uk has loads more information on contraception and STIs, as well as advice on having sex for the first time. You can also find more details in our related links and articles.
