It's a love thing
Tuesday 14 February 2006
Relationships are a funny old thing.
You like someone for ages and think they don't even know you're alive, and sometimes they turn around and say that they like you back.
Does this only happen in Hollywood movies? Can love at first sight really exist? We ask some n2k readers what they reckon to the L word.
Secret love
James, 15, tells us why love doesn't run as smoothly as you he'd like. "I've really liked this girl at school for ages. She's friendly and everything but she either hasn't got a clue that I fancy her or couldn't care less."
Has James ever tried to tell her how he feels? "Well, I'm not madly in love with her or anything, but I wouldn't mind taking her out. I'd really hate it if she turned me down in front of all my mates."
Tough love
Anna, 16, had an admirer of her own, but instead of keeping his feelings to himself, he was only too keen to tell the world how he felt. "Simon was in my class, and I could tell that he liked me, but I was into someone else and wasn't really interested in being more than friends."
Things soon got annoying for Anna when her wannabe boyfriend didn't get the point.
"He hassled me a lot and bought me gifts. I felt sorry for him at first but then it really began to annoy me because the lad I did like thought Simon and I were together.
Eventually I had to sit Simon down and explain the situation to him. We became mates and I even set up with one of my mates."
Anna's word of advice if it happens to you? "If someone likes you and you don't feel the same way, you've got to do the right thing and let them know. It's only fair."
Direct love
Lucy and Scott, both 18, met at school when they were 15.
Lucy tells us: "I really fancied him and didn't know what to do about it so I just didn't say anything at all.
Eventually we were on a school trip and he came over and out of nowhere asked me out!" Because he was so up front about it, it took me by surprise and I just blurted out 'yeah'!"
Does Lucy have a secret to making it last? "There's no secrets, but as long as you give each other plenty of space, listen to each other and have respect, it will all work out OK."
Please note: we've changed names where appropriate.
