Domestic abuse - help
Monday 30 November 2009
New campaigns and plans are in place to tackle domestic violence in the UK, including lessons in school. Read about them here.
What is domestic abuse?
It’s normal for families and couples to squabble once in a while. In fact it can be quite healthy and can be a good way to help people open up; something which they might not do otherwise.
Domestic abuse however, is any threatening behaviour in the home or in a relationship. It can come in the form of physical, emotional and sexual attacks like punches and kicks, put downs, sexual assault or severe bullying. Find out more about domestic abuse.
Listen to what people have to say about it here.
Facts and statistics
There were 293,000 domestic abuse incidents reported in 2008 and early 2009. Whilst more than half of these victims were women, recent statistics show that more and more men are reporting incidents too. The British Crime Survey recently released figures showing that 23 per cent of all domestic violence incidents involved a female abuser.
Reports also show that most incidents aren’t one-offs. In Scotland, incidents are so common that the police receive a call about domestic violence every 11 minutes. To tackle the problem, people are now taking part in a new campaign called The White Ribbon, which promises never to ‘commit, condone or remain silent’ about domestic violence. Get involved in the campaign here.
If it's happening to you...
Always remember that you're not to blame. Experts say that abusers pick on those they’re closest to because it gives them a sense of control. They often play mind games and blame the victims for the incident too.
For help talk to someone you are close to and who you can trust. Your friends, teachers and school councillor should all be able to help.
It may be difficult for you but you should also contact the police. They will be able to act quickly and can get to a scene of an incident if you call them as soon as possible.
Lots of help
Many domestic violence incidents aren’t reported to the police, meaning that people could be living in silence and fear. If you’re a victim of domestic abuse, then speak up. You have a right to feel safe in your own home and relationship. There is lots of help available too.
The NSPCC run a 24 hour helpline and provide lots of confidential advice and support to victims. If you’re not ready to speak to the police yourself then they can talk to them for you. To speak to an adviser call 0808 800 5000.
At times it can be hard for male victims to open up. If you’re a guy and you’re worried about your safety then contact Men’s Advice Line. There are also options to cover your tracks if you need to.
The Hideout is a place for young victims to understand what's happening to them. On the site are lots of stories from other victims too.
School lessons
Soon you’ll also be able to get help during school lessons. From 2011, students will be taught how to prevent violent relationships. As part of this, two new helplines will be set up to provide support on sexual violence and harassment as well. The lessons will be held in PSHE class and will be taught by trained teachers who will cover violence prevention and gender equality. Watch this space.
